Relationships and marriage
But generally, the line should advance, and your relationships should resume joy.
Who's an expert on relationships-- especially their own! Don't we all feel at sea here sometimes? And yet, for most of us, its a critical component of our very life.
We start out with good intentions-- whether it's a friendship, a spouse or partner, a child, a parent, a boss-- what goes wrong, and how do we end up sometimes feeling so out of control with that?
Many things (as we know!) can cause distress in relationships. Are we getting our needs met? No? Then how do we address that? Frontally with blame, gently with discussion that may still upend, internally with other compensations? And what about our fears? Do they sometimes drive behaviors we recognize at the outset as counterproductive, but---- These and many other things interweaving tarnish our beautiful connections. Too much resented distance-- or, conversely, too much resented closeness; insufficient or excessive and excessively frank communication. Destructive decisions, mutual or unilateral. and so forth.
Some-- or none-- of these may describe circumstances in relationships that you might like to improve. We will explore what your circumstances, feelings, and needs are. We will consider where things have gone askew and look at possible specific and general ways to improve the relationship. We will aim for understanding of how all of these things intermix and play out in order to set new plans and priorities. And then try them out.
For couples, whether married or at some other level or kind of commitment, I use some specific approaches. I have completed advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman approaches to couples counseling and use principles and practices from others such as Harville Hendrix as well. EFT in particular, has been researched for over 25 years and found to have very high (90%) improvement rates which last.
Our work together is an exploration, and sometimes you may decide that a relationship is best discontinued. If you do choose to work on the relationship, you can expect some ups and downs as we follow circumstance, uncover new insights, try new behaviors. But generally, the line should advance upward, and your relationships should increasingly resume joy.
Kathy Nash M.A., L.P.C. License #882 phone: 307-760-5665
1277 N. 15th Street email:
Laramie, Wyoming 82070 wyowellnessworks.com